Audio recording of “Long-Distance Relationship” recorded during worship. (14:51)
Delivered at Trinity Lutheran Church, Pottsville, PA. Lent 5, Year B.
Texts: Jer 31.31-34; Heb 5.5-10; John 12.20-33
As many of you know, I am engaged to a woman named Stephanie, and she’s now living in Wisconsin which, if you are not up on your US geography, is just a little ways from Pennsylvania. I mention this because as I read today’s scriptures, this is what it brings to mind. Stephanie and I have been in a long-distance relationship for most of the time that we’ve known one another, and it’s been very hard on both of us. I was very excited when I came to Pottsville because she was only two hours away, and that is the closest we’ve been since we met—and then she goes and moves to Wisconsin. You can imagine that neither of us was very happy about that, but that’s where the Spirit sent her.
In the midst of this long-distance relationship, we have a variety of ways that we try to maintain a connection and be close to one another. We talk on the cell phone many times a day—I’m sure Verizon is very happy to have me as a customer, we send emails back and forth to each other, and sometimes we can even use webcams over the internet to see one another. It’s a real treat because sometimes I forget what she looks like!
But no matter what we do to try to stay close to each other, it never makes up for having her here. When she comes to visit after Easter, it will have been three months since I’ve seen her. That’s an awfully long time. It is very, very hard to be in a long distance relationship, and that is what the prophet Jeremiah is saying about today. As he speaks, he speaks to a people who are in a long-distance relationship with God. He is specifically writing to a people who have been exiled by the Babylonians. But even to the people still in Jerusalem, there was this gulf that they felt between them and God. It was very hard for them: they were God’s chosen people, and yet their God seemed so far away.
Today, we find ourselves in much the same situation, though we may not be in exile. There are days when we feel closer to God than others, but by and large, God seems so far away, so distant. And so to make up for that, we try many and various ways to maintain a relationship with God. We talk to God in prayer. We come experience God’s presence in worship every weekend. We reach out to our Brothers and sisters in ministry to participate in God’s work. Even though these things do help, they still cannot make up for having God present with us.
One of the other ways that we humans often try to feel closer to God is through following the law. I’m not talking about only crossing the street at the crosswalk and only when the little man is blinking, I’m talking about Torah, the Law of the Bible. When God gave Torah to the Jews, it was out of love. As Christians, we think of Torah as very restrictive and binding, something that doesn’t fit very well. But to the Jews, it is God’s love letter. When they were lost in the wilderness, freed from slavery only—they thought— to die in the middle of a desert, God gave them Torah to save them from anarchy, to give them a social structure and to teach them how to be in relationship with one another. Torah gave them something to trust it, something that proved God’s love for them. It gave them assurance that they had a future, because God wouldn’t give them this law if God had just brought them out there to die.
Not only that, but Torah helped establish a connection between God and the people, because it helped them to know what God wanted from them. Torah is a wonderful thing. It guides us in our lives and helps us to know God’s will for us. But when we get too wrapped up in the laws of the Bible, we risk falling into legalism. We risk turning he Bible into our idol. This is what happened to the people to whom Jeremiah is speaking. They got so good and following the Law and manipulating it to get what they wanted from it, that somewhere in the mix over the hundreds of years since they were brought out of slavery they started to forget who gave them the Law. They cut God out of the picture and began instead to worship the Law. They cut God out of the equation, and it broke God’s heart.
Listen to this line again: “‘…A covenant they broke, though I was their husband,’ says the Lord.” It doesn’t quite come across in black and white, but when you listen to it, you can almost feel the pain, the anger, the heartache in God’s voice. When these people fell in love with God’s Law and forgot about God, it hurt God. To fall in love with the Law, then or now, is as ridiculous as if I were to fall in love with my cell phone or my computer because that is where I see and hear Stephanie; and yet, that is the very thing we do. We almost forget that the Law cannot save us: the Law can only condemn us. Try as we might, it cannot bring us any closer to God, it can only keep us from being any further away from God. But, we will inevitably fail, and so it only serves to point out our failings. One can follow the Law perfectly from the day they were born until their dying breath and it would not put them in any better standing before God. We forget that the Law is a means to an end, not an end in and of itself. It is meant to help us be in relationship with God, to help us to know what God wants of us, but it is not something to be followed “just because.”
All this happens because we miss God. We are in this long-distance relationship with God and we want to feel closer. But hearing these words of Jeremiah, we also remember that God misses us. That is why Jeremiah is writing, why God gave Jeremiah these words, because God wanted to tell the people that God is establishing a new covenant, one that doesn’t rely on how well we follow Torah, because God will write the Law on our hearts. This means that when we want to know God’s will for us, no longer will we have to look it up in the Bible and find a chapter and verse, we don’t have to ask “what does the Bible say?” because we will know “what does God say.” We will be able to know this because, as Jeremiah writes, we will all know God, from the least to the greatest, from the youngest to the oldest, from the richest to the poorest, from the most sinful, to the most righteous.
And when God says, “they will all know me,” God doesn’t just mean in a familiar sense. Remember that these words are in the Old Testament, where the phrase “to know” is frequently used as a euphemism for something else. That is the kind of knowledge that God wants us to have, that God wants of us. God wants to KNOW us. As anybody who is married will tell you, when you know somebody like that, you know them more deeply and fully than you do anybody else. It is a special kind of knowledge and that is the knowledge that God wants with us. When I worked at summer camp, we used to sing a song that referred to God as the lover of our souls. That’s not a metaphor: God is the lover of our souls.
When we are able to KNOW God, we will find that what God says is completely consistent with the Bible. I don’t mean the literal words, chapter and verse, but the entire Bible as a whole. This is because God is steadfast and faithful.
How can we know God apart from looking it up in a book? We can know God because God is present with us. Jesus is Immanuel, which literally means “God-with-us.” God gave us Torah to teach us how to love one another, to tell us how to do it. But then, God sent christ, not to tell us, but to show us, to live God’s love to us. Christ shows us how to love on another as we see how Christ loved us, and we also are shown God’s love for us in the lengths to which Christ was willing to go for us, and for God. As Jesus says, “when you see the me, you see the Father.” When we know Christ, we know God. In being lifted up on the cross, Christ gave us the ultimate act of love. That love writes Torah on our hearts. Christ said, “A grain of wheat, unless it dies, remains a single grain, but when it dies, it bears much fruit.” With his death, Christ proved to us how much God loves us and that love bears fruit in us.
In that single act of devotion on the cross, Jesus draws all people to himself and to the Father. And that word “draw” is a loaded word. It doesn’t mean just, “come here.” It’s the same word that describes the flow of a river or the pull of a tide: it’s inescapable. Jesus draws us all to himself in that love. And though we are all waiting to know what it is like to fully KNOW God, we do have Christ with us, present here in our worship where two or three are gathered in his name, but we also have the promise that the days are surely coming.
Even though for Stephanie and me some days are really hard, even though there are days when I feel like just turning off the alarm clock and going back to bed and waiting for the next one, days when I am counting down the hours until I get to talk to her again, even though days don’t seem quite so vibrant when she’s not around, we have that promise that the days are surely coming when we will be together, when we will be married, and we won’t ever have to leave each other again. We will KNOW one another, and we will be one flesh, and it is that promise that keeps the two of us going.
That is the kind of relationship that God has promised to have with us. God says, “The days are surely coming when all people will KNOW me.” Because we have that promise, and because we have Christ, we can keep going. God promises us this relationship, and until we have that completely fulfilled, for each of us and for all humanity, until that love becomes perfect and takes away all of the sin in the world, we can trust our hearts, filled with Christ’s love, in conversation with the entire Bible, not chapter and verse citations, to tell us what God says. Do not trust ink on a page. Do not trust dead, black-and-white words. Trust the living Spirit of Scripture. Trust the love that we see modeled there, because that is how we can KNOW God.